I think the biggest category that society has created is the “Us” and “Them groups. You either are or you aren’t—there’s no in-between. You are either white or you aren’t. You are either a feminist or you aren’t. This has created a lack of space for people to be individuals. Nguyen hates the category she is placed in solely based on her name and culture. Gay hates that she cannot fit perfectly into a category. You cannot negotiate the category people have put you in. The box is tight and unfair. Nguyen wants to escape and does. Gay feels like it is better to accept it yet allow herself to just herself even if that does not mean she fits the perfect mold. Just because we have these categories as a society doesn’t mean everyone will fit into them perfectly or that even though it may seem that they belong there, it may not be true.
Going off Nikki Giovanni, “race” was not even in the English language until 1508, it is a modern construct. If we had no label or category for people, we were all just people, then there would be no stereotypes. It is one thing to notice somebody is different and another to determine who they are by that difference. There are so many issues in this world that you would think it would make us more unified. We are all on a floating rock that is dying as we speak due to climate change and we will all be affected regardless of who we are, what we look like, and what we call ourselves. It would make sense that this of all things would make us come together, forget our differences, and try and stop these horrific things from happening. However, our county is rooted in systemic racism and sexism which seems to be a cycle that just won’t break. It would be a dream if race could become as fluid as gender seems to be evolving. Giovani also points out that some kids do not allow labels to change what they do and how they perceive themselves.
I think that it is nobody else’s business what someone thinks of you. Most of the time it is just a reflection of themselves rather than who you are. Gender and race do not determine whether you are a good person, smart, funny, etc. Nguyen cares what people think, and she hates herself for that. It would be hard for me to say that categories have no power if you do not believe in them, if you do not believe that you are stuck in this one box. I wish this could be the truth, but these categories affect greater issues ad can be oppressive to groups of people. 1 in 4 Muslim women are assaulted. This is a crazy and disturbing number. Not only do these individuals commit these acts but it seems consistent that bystanders allow this behavior to continue with no punishment. There has been an uptick in Islamophobia since 9/11 and an even bigger one since the 2016 election. Roxanne Mun says, “when people commit these kinds of individual hate violence it’s a reflection of the broader behavior that’s been enshrined in policies by law enforcement agencies”. These categories and stereotypes are throughout our government and the very way we live.